My dirrty online chat
I appreciated them letting me know and hopefully wearing the world’s largest sweater had mitigated it. We’re going to see them again at a BBQ in about a month (it’s at our house, otherwise I’d skip it).
I’m wondering how to handle this situation, especially since I just got a call from a mutual friend saying that she called her sobbing about how this had really cast a pall over her day.
We’re less compatible in the bedroom, though our sex life was generally adequate.
One issue was that he was raised as a bit of a prude and was always dead silent during the act. We cannot have a single conversation, not one, in which he doesn’t add some sexual comment in the crudest possible terms. Now I can’t even say “good morning” without getting a long, rambling, B-porn-movie description of highly specific sex acts. A: If you have already repeatedly said to your husband, “Please stop talking dirty to me in public” politely, and then “Cut it out, I’m embarrassed and turned off” less politely, the problem is not that you have failed to effectively communicate your boundaries to your husband.
Her bridesmaids wore the color, the close family wore the color. Other than a wedding invitation, we never had any contact with them prior to the event since a summer BBQ where dress codes were not discussed.
It’s a little trickier to keep your distance as hosts than it would be as mere guests, but at least you always have the excuse of needing to check on the grill/cooler/new arrivals if you need to quickly escape her conversation.
And, of course, if she or her husband try to drag up your mortal blue sin again, you can generically and cheerfully change the subject, excuse yourself, and make a mental note to disinvite these cranks from all future barbecues, cookouts, get-togethers, clambakes, and/or hootenannies.
At this point, my patience was wearing a little thin. This morning, I woke up to being tagged in a rant about guest etiquette on Facebook and an email from the groom asking me to apologize again.
I responded, copying his wife, reiterating my original message in a bland way (sorry, I didn’t know. This woman has gone from generically fine to totally unhinged in my book.